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elleparamour: And how are you doing?

Even though you have a girlfriend and have not been in my life for years, hardly a week goes by that I don’t think of you.

Do you remember how you would get upset that I wouldn’t do anything on my own? How your feelings subsided because I wasn’t that tough woman whom you thought you would love? Can you remember how we were sitting at a table laughing with your sister and her boyfriend – before she started spreading dirty rumors about me once we broke up? Do you still remember what you whispered in my ear, then weeks later couldn’t comply with? Do you remember what I gave up for you and what, in spite, I got in return?

elleparamour: “Sore and Healing Ointment”

It was when I began dating boys that I realized they’re not as dumb as I thought and when love ceased that I realized that they are in fact as dumb as initially suspected.

Naturally, falling in love happens, notwithstanding. Sometimes with the right person. And still you act cautiously, not letting yourself fall into it immediately; “I don’t want to get hurt again” or “I don’t want to make the same mistakes as then”. You have already been abandoned once, you’ve suffered more than enough. I, too, refuse to touch a hot plate twice.

elleparamour: THE BEST GIRLFRIEND.

A girlfriend, perhaps a best friend, is like a sister you never had – one who, fortunately, doesn’t share the same blood as you, yet acts as a completing half, a superego, a moral voice in borderline situations and a mother, when you’re sick.

Ask yourself sometimes

My column today only deals with questions. Not with questions  and the following answers, speculations and wishful thinking on my part – no. Just questions spoken out load, that are supposed to encourage to smile and reflect.

1.With what did we actually make our money with before Facebook?
2.Why is our reputation important when it comes to men, but not for Pharrell?
3.Do men really pay attention if my bra fits to my panties?

Sexy is so much more.

„If you would wear something more provocative, you would be sexy“. What can we say about this comment, especially when it comes from an over 40 year old.

Alright then. Berlin (unfortunately) leads to rather being stylish and individual than sexy. I must also honestly admit that I usually choose my clothes so that other women find me pretty and not the men. Because if it would go by them, I would have no panties under my skirt or would wear a cleavage that says hello to my belly button. I want compliments for my trend awareness, my combinations and not for my genes.

Everyday life without sex & sex without everyday life.

We are in love with men without loving them, love men without being in love with them. With loving I mean having sex. When can everyday life end in the night and the night have an everyday life?

Goodbye Summer ♥ Tschüss Sommer

A few weeks ago we couldn’t leave the house with clothes; a bottle of water the constant companion, a room without air conditioning was almost unbearable, even the favourite club was more enjoyable outside than in it.

Romantic Handcuffs ♥ Romantische Handschellen

To find the right partner, marry him and swear on eternal love is probably the end of a long search. Some find the partner with 20, others only in their 30s or later. You walk through the city, date idiots, dream men, find faults within yourself, faults within others, have demands and depressions. But the faith of not ending up as an eternal spinster, to also cut the wedding cake at some point and not having to always stand in the front row when hoping to catch the bouquet, keeps you from jumping off the bridge.

Me in love with… or maybe just having a crush… or maybe nothing of all that? ♥ Ich verliebt in… Vielleicht auch nur verknallt… Oder nichts dergleichen?

Being single for four years, means having done what you what you wanted for four years. No justifying, no jealousy, no evenings together, no introduction to friends, no expectations and no separation anxiety. Yeah right. You had all of that, but not with a partner, but with men in which you were in love or those who were in love with you. But you were never in love simultaneously. The train left the station when you were just coming down the stairs or it never arrived.

Dad, don’t listen for a sec ♥ Papa, hör mal kurz weg

© Dania Hell

Would I not go out so much, I wouldn’t see what the city has to offer as far as people. Women and men, singles and alleged singles. In different ways they all aspire towards one goal: Finding the opposite sex, whether for a night or three months after all.

Do you want to marry me? ♥ Willst du mich heiraten?

Our generation is now more than ever, living of trying out, experimenting, the threesome, sexual extremes and much more. Who did what and who can top that one off. Monogamy shelved as a wishful thinking- the reality, the body asks for something else, in which many are powerless against. The world is hard, the penis too, what can you do.

How do you imagine your ideal man to be? ♥ Wie stellst du dir deinen Traummann vor?

We’ve asked this question or have been asked it often before. A shooting answer to it, the older we were getting, would come less and less. There where you used to start talking about the hair color when counting the important things in a man, now the focus lays on the inner values. Should he be dark-haired or well built? Yes. But suddenly, humor and the way he loves you are far more important, letting the way he looks disappear into the background.

Do you have fever? You look so damn hot! ♥ Hast du Fieber? Du siehst so verdammt heiss aus!

Why always write about not finding a man? Or if you find one, he then turns out to be the wrong one.

Often you are not really aware of how you seem to be for others. The self confidence sometimes lives in the basement and rarely finds its way back to the first floor, as you were rejected by men who simply weren’t meant to be. (Especially women who believe in fate and destiny can very fast in consoling themselves and find a fitting argument and theory. Not one itself, but a higher power has decided that you don’t fit together).

Round 1 – Old vs. New ♥ Runde 1 – Alt vs. Neu

“I have left the old and I’m ready for a new one.” Ding, ding, ding – and the old is standing there, ready to explain his status. As if the ex boyfriends have antennas, which say “look out, the chick has a new guy”. Not only did they treat you badly within the “relationship”, but even stupidly come back in that moment to continue with the same. Not always to get the woman back in full, but usually only for one reason: mark their territory. Like dogs, they piss around to show who had been calling the shouts, having fancied him just a short while ago.

Everyday the heart says Hi ♥ Und täglich grüßt das Herz

You feel like hugging the whole world when you’re in love. The face has a permanent smile, butterflies whizz around the belly and the scale finally shows us numbers that we no longer have to conceal.

Olé Olé Olé!

When statements are given off which seem to be learned by heart or overheard somewhere, one can hardly believe this and surely sometimes twitches in reaction to that. Usually hating against everything, they suddenly feel close and want to be part of the conversation. They call out words and names which they’ve memorized, in the hope that you’ll ask them for the definition and in the best case scenario even praise them for it. Disguising over four years that they actually don’t have a clue, they still try to be cool, make an impression and maybe even get props for it.

Wuff, Wuff!

Dogs that bark, don’t bite. Which means: Who aggressively announces what he’s going to do to you, is probably not going to do anything at all.

Women that flirt, don’t fuck. Which means: When a women aggressively announces, what she would do with a guy, she is probably not going to go through with it.

“I can’t stay; ’cause…’cause…’cause I still need to fold some washing.” ♥ “Ich kann leider nicht bleiben, weil weil weil ich noch Wäsche zusammen legen muss.”

We get to know men. In a club, bar, on a private party or online- we think that we’re prepared for situations which our mind knows from the past, or at least has already heard of it- yeah right. Always amazing to see what men can spout out.

A very sweet attribute of women: they believe in the goodness within the man. The Mother-Theresa-Instinct or the classic Hera-syndrome- they want a man who means them well, they want to help and rescue, and above all still be the only one doing so.

“This time… I really don’t want to stay in touch” ♥ “Also ich möchte wirklich keinen Kontakt mehr- diesmal”